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Motherhood can be one of the most isolating times in a woman’s life. A time where society tells us we should be head over heels in love with the newest addition in our lives. But what happens when we’re not feeling that blissful sensation we’ve all been told is normal? I know what happens, life gets really, really lonely. Doubt starts to creep in and make us question every single thing we do and how we must be inadequate because it’s not creating the life we’ve been told we should have. Queue the downward spiral of self-doubt, feelings of failure and harsh self-criticism. Sound familiar? I’m here to tell you, you’re not alone.

Since becoming a mother, I realized that I was dedicating more and more time trying to give my child a “perfect” childhood and it was coming at the expense of my own mental health. I was so hard on myself and held myself to ridiculous standards set by our out of touch society. I began to hate myself, like really hate myself. I became spiteful towards others because they seemed to have time to do things for themselves and they seemed to always have their shit together. I had no time for self-love, I was too busy trying not to ruin my child. I did not feel like I had any of my shit together. I was quick to anger and slow to settle. I was drowning.

After dedicating hundreds of hours to my own personal growth and working with my own guides and coaches, I found a better way. A way that allowed me to love myself as a mother and as a woman. I then decided to rewrite my identity to fit the life I always dreamed of having. A woman deserving of self-love first, mother second. And guess what? My kid tells me on the daily now that I’m “like the best mom ever.” I have learned that I can love on a whole different level, a magical level, when I love myself first. Since learning this, and putting it into my daily practice, I have realized that my self-hating began way before I had a child. For most of my life I have had a deep seeded hatred towards myself. Unreasonable expectations, constantly comparing myself to others, a never-ending obsession with being perfect, it had been happening all my life. It just wasn’t until I became a mother and started this journey that I realized it. Now I have made it my mission to help other women help them see their own light! For far too long we have lived with a dimmed light, it’s time to shine momma.